Our wedding was on the 20th March 2020- the last normal day of 2020 before the world stood still. And it does not feel like it’s been a year since our big day. We were super lucky to have our wedding at all, despite lots of people cancelling & unable to attend. So I thought it would be good to reflect on our first year of marriage in lockdown.
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As with everything, last year has been a bit of a weird one. With one lockdown or another constantly restricting what we are doing. Probably the biggest thing that we got distracted by was our honeymoon. Our original one in March was cancelled and we moved it to November. As we were getting closer to November, it became clear that we won’t be able to go again. So we cancelled it completely and planned a UK honeymoon in Cornwall. Slightly different to the sandy beaches of Maldives, but we just wanted to have some sort of honeymoon & to get away. Couple of days before we were due to travel to Cornwall, another lockdown was announced.
And yes, I am more than aware that people are losing lives, loved ones, jobs & dealing with aftermath of having Covid, but our honeymoon was something I have been looking forwards to for years. Even before we got engaged, I wanted to go to Maldives & finally have my beach holiday. So yes, I was upset about not being able to have any sort of honeymoon.
I’ve been asked a few times now- How has the first year of marriage been like? How does it feel to be married?
Honestly? No different than before we got married. I’m not sure if I’m missing something here, but I’ve got nothing. I don’t know if there is no difference as we’ve been living together for years. Maybe things will change a bit when I officially change my last name. (not done due to Covid, as I need to go to Latvian embassy to do all paperwork). And I do find it strange to call James husband.
What were we up to during our first year?
It wasn’t like we weren’t busy. We moved into our new house, which took couple or so months to settle in. We’re still doing bits & pieces to make it more homey. Re-designing our garden is this summers project. (keep your eyes peeled for garden updates)
When able we’ve done day trips to the beach, woods, Stonehenge. Catching up with friends & family.
As both of us are working from home, we had to learn how to be with each other 24/7, which was a bit tricky.
Oh.. yes… training our new puppy has taken a lot of our time as well.
Having ‘Me Time’ & Spending time apart
For the majority of the year, I felt guilty by wanting to spend the evenings or weekends working on MCL, doing crafts, playing The Sims, reading or just going for a walk by myself. But after a while we decided that we need to have our own time alone, doing different things apart, and not just do things together.
We also work in the same room, which is challenging at times. Especially when both of us are on calls at the same time. Some couples will not be in this boat as one of you or even both, are still going out in the real world for work. But take it from me- if you are both working from home- make sure you take your own ‘me’ time.
| In case you missed it, here is a post about Working from home tips. I combined my tips & tricks to help me be more productive, while working from home. |
I think we’ve done really well in our first year of marriage (survived it) in lockdown. We are looking forwards to latter part of this year & next year when we are able to travel, attend events, go on date nights & just have more freedom.